Have you ever found yourself saying, “I don’t have a choice. I have to …”? I have. Then one day I discovered that I always have a choice. I always choose my thoughts. I always choose my words. I always choose my actions.

Life is a choice. We are constantly making choices. Even when it seems like we don’t have a choice, we are still choosing. If someone points a gun to my head and says, “Hand over your money,” I make the choice to hand over the money or I make the choice to risk being shot. I am still choosing, even though the motivation to make one of them is much stronger than the other.

Sometimes we can easily see the error in other people’s choices, and, yes, sometimes those choices can affect us. It can be so easy to tell someone else that they made a choice, a bad one. But that’s not what this blog post is about. It’s to make each person look at their own choices and judge them, whether they are beneficial or not. Are they conducive to our growth or our breakdown? Are they building your relationships or are they destroying them? Do they produce peace or turmoil? These are good questions to ask ourselves.